All the single ladies, now put your hands up! If you’re reading this then I’m going to hazard a guess that you’re single, or at least thinking about becoming single. And furthering that point – you’re perhaps a little apprehensive about it? But fear not. I’m a young (mid-20’s is still young, right?), pretty (ish) gal who is loving her single life! Crazy right?! Being single is not as scary as people make out – trust me. Have a read of these top tips on A Confident Girl’s Guide On How To Boss Being Single…
1. Always show up
Sometimes it’s really hard to summon up the desire to go meet your pals if you know that you’re going to be the only single one. But they’re your friends and you shouldn’t let their relationship status’ stop you from wanting to go out. Instead, approach the situation with an open mind. There might be single friends of friends that you could get to know, but if not, well, you’ve got a heck of a lot of wingmen surrounding you! Make the effort to chat with everyone because it won’t go unnoticed and people will appreciate it. Plus, expanding your social circle has never been a bad thing. Take a look here on my favourite ways to make new friends.
2. Always look the part
I’m always filled with confidence whenever I know that I look good, be that at work, in the gym or out with friends. It changes the way I hold myself and act, which in turn alters the energy that you expel. Now, I’m not telling you to go get fresh blow-dries or perfectly manicured nails every day. One of the simplest ways that I like to pamper myself is with this Lush face mask! But you never know who you’re going to meet and it certainly helps if you’re feeling like a queen when you do! Feel confident in the way that you look and you will feel confident in yourself.
3. Don’t put yourself down
It’s all too easy to focus on your “faults”, especially if you’re having a down day. But truth be told, you’re fantastic. Everyone is different and each one of us has aspects about our personalities that we’d rather change. But your quirks are what make you, you. If something is bothering you though, the key is to turn it into a positive. For example, instead of saying “I’m too stubborn” you could say “I stand by what I believe in”. Have faith in you. Because how can someone else have faith in you if even you don’t?
4. Build friendships
This is the perfect time to work on your friendships. Not only can you pursue and develop new friends and expand your social circle, but you can focus on nurturing your current ones. It’s easy to put your friends on the sidelines when you’re in a relationship – we’ve all done it. But here’s your chance! Go on cute day trips, have meals out, relive girly sleepovers and have all the fun in the world together! These are the people who are going to be around before and after the relationships come and go, so show them some love.
5. Never settle
Confident single girls know that they’re worth a million dollars and they don’t settle for less. Now, it’s TOTALLY human to have days where you doubt yourself. Where you miss being in a relationship and crave the comforts that it can bring. But these days pass. And in the meantime it’s important to remember that you don’t need a guy/girl to make you happy. So don’t make the terrible mistake of desperately dating and settling with the first person to come along – just because you want someone. If they’re the love of your life, then that’s fantastic! By all means, shoot. But if you want to date this person just because you want someone to date, then you’re settling. Don’t do it! Hold out for the right person – they’re on their way.
6. Focus on yourself
Being single is the best time to focus on you. Try a new hobby, take up a sport, tick things off your bucket list – do all the things that you never had time to do before. You have the opportunity to live a full and busy life! So treat yo’self.
7. Own it
Being single is a choice, so own it, girl! You have the chance to make this period in your life a time that is totally focused on you. Be super dramatic and call it A Journey of Self-Discovery, if that’s what floats ya boat. The important thing is that you don’t use it as a time to dwell on what you don’t have, but use it as a time to chase what you want.
Take this time to create a happy and healthy you.